By Guy J. Gourley, MA, MABS, LCPC In couples counseling, one of the most common patterns I see is this: Two people, each trying to change...

By Guy J. Gourley, MA, MABS, LCPC In many of the couples I counsel, there is a common dynamic that unfolds quietly over time: The wife...

By Guy J. Gourley MA, MABS, LCPC In today’s emotionally charged relationship landscape, it’s common to hear frustrated partners say...

By Guy J. Gourley, MA, MABS, LCPC Many wives quietly confess: "I don’t want to be affectionate, because it always leads to sex." And many...

By Guy J. Gourley MA, MABS, LCPC In many Christian marriages, men are taught that they are to be the initiators : spiritually,...

By Guy J. Gourley, MA, MABS, LCPC Sex is meant to be a place of joy, bonding, and mutual delight. But for many couples, it becomes a...

By Guy J. Gourley MA, MABS, LCPC You’ve probably heard it before: “Men just want peace in a relationship.” But that leads to a natural...

By Guy J. Gourley MA, MABS, LCPC In couples counseling, dating profiles, and even casual conversations, more and more men are saying some...

Discover the top 3 habits that quietly destroy marriages—three from wives and three from husbands. Learn how to recognize and reverse...

Relax in My Pain...Are you Crazy? The morning light streamed through my blinds, casting a soft glow on Shana’s face as she clutched a...

She sat on my couch with tear-stained cheeks. Tears slid, resting on her eyelids, threatening to drop. As a counselor, I’m comfortable...

I have to laugh at myself when I’ve got a big speaking event, or I’m trying to write a blog or, for that matter, a novel. I can get so...

Oswald Chambers says, “My attitude as a saint to sorrow and difficulty is not to ask that they may be prevented, but to ask that I may...

“Time Out” Rules of Engagement Whoever calls a “Time Out” or “I need to take a break” is responsible for re-engaging the other person in...

Guy J. Gourley MA, MABS, LCPC Myth # 1 It’s all about problem-solving. Biblical Truth: It is about first loving well (connecting) and...

It is a well-known researched fact that men experience more anxiety in conflict than women, but…show it less non-verbally. This is...

So often in relationships, a couple thinks that if they are validated that they are right, they will feel closer to each other. That is...

The other day I sat in my office with my cup of coffee and watched the sunrise. It was beautiful. The way I was feeling that morning was...

I love movies. They inspire me, give me hope, and most of all, make me feel even when I know I’m running from my life. As I sit and meld...

We’d been driving for a while when my wife asked me if I had printed the directions. Panic struck my heart like a sledgehammer. This was...